Ever Evolving Love

Loving someone is a choice. A choice to try to understand their perspective. The willingness to take initiative to notice what is important in a moment’s time. Compromising the nuances. Taking a step back to self-reflect and take accountability of the part you’ve played in the miscommunications and lack of understanding. Learning to be patient when times are tough.

Love is ever evolving that comes with growth, understanding, compassion, patients, and sometimes the ultimate sacrifice; letting go. Letting go of what you once knew or understood. Letting go and setting them free to be authentically happy despite it hurting.

Love isn’t just about finding the “one” but rather a deep authentic connection even if it’s a moment in time. It still lasts a lifetime. A lifetime of memories, joy, connection, growth, problem solving, safety, comfort, and stability. While also unmasking and showing the other side. Unmasking hurt, sadness, confusion, miscommunication, disagreements, lack of accountability and resentment.

Love isn’t a whirlwind of romance and continuous excitement. It is actively choosing that person for all that are and will be. Intense chemistry can be mistaken for security and long-term connection rather than being love and authentic companionship. Emotions run high in a short amount of time without truly understanding someone holistically.

This comes with false intimacy. The desire to spend all your time with this individual which creates a false sense of security. This can fizzle out once real-life challenges come up. We ignore red flags causing blind spots that make us overlook toxic behaviors or mismatches in core values. We fantasize falling in love with the potential of what they do and say rather than their consistent actions that take time to build.